The title of this blog is auto-biographical. I have, from the beginning of my conscious life, had the feeling that I was different; that I somehow didn’t fit into any of the boxes presented as “normal.” Being dyslexic, among other things, will do that. A few years ago, I got together with my very best friend from High School. We did everything together back then and then, quite suddenly, our lives took us in very separate directions. Mine was a decidedly “out of the box” one. When we got together again, after many years apart, she asked me, “You always just wanted to be different, didn’t you?” I told her that I actually never saw it as a choice, I was just born that way.
As I have gotten older, I have come to realize that most people I know well have had this same feeling, at some time in their life. I have come to believe that none of us fit into the “normal” box. People, at their depth, are not built that way. Children do not easily fit into standardization and many pay dearly if we try to make them fit into that box. Being “out of the box” has come to mean finding my own voice and my unique perspective or becoming fully myself. Many of us spend a great deal of our lives on this process, I know have. Once we are truly in touch with ourselves and our unique ways of interacting with the world, I believe we are called to step fully into the fire that is our current reality. This doesn’t seem like a choice any more than whether we are different or not, is. From the inside, it feels like a mandate to me. I once heard the America Mystic, David Spangler, define integrity as those moments when your whole being, your spirit, soul, mind and body are doing the same thing at the same time. This is not as easy as it sounds, but it is required for honest integrity. Once we start to master this skill, we start to speak directly and without hesitation. Our current culture needs as many voices filled with honest integrity as we can muster. Each of our unique voices are needed. As clearly as I can express it, this is the path I feel called to follow, and what I am called to write about in this blog. I hope that it will help others to find their own clear voice and the courage to use that voice for the progress and healing our world so desperately needs…at this precise moment. Below are the herbal resources that I find most helpful:
First for the local ones: Classes and Herbal Clinics: Sacred Plant Traditions: http://www.sacredplanttraditions.com/ Owl Craft Healing Ways http://owlcrafthealingways.tumblr.com/ Green Lake Healing Center http://www.greenlakehealing.com/ Local Places to Buy Herbs The Elderberry Store http://www.elderberryherbals.com/ Rebecca's Natural http://rebeccasnaturalfood.com/ Online Resources: Mountain Rose Herbs https://www.mountainroseherbs.com/ Frontier Coop http://www.frontiercoop.com/ Online Source for Herb Plants: Richters Herbs https://www.richters.com/ 1. Hibiscus Infusion:
4 cups of water 1/2 cup of dried hibiscus flower 1 Lemon, ½ cup of honey Boil water, add hibiscus, and lemon, let steep for 30 minutes add honey while still warm, strain and serve cold. Good cooling drink, excellent for fevers, makes delicious popsicles, (also good for fevers). 2. Elderberry Syrup: Dried Elderberries Honey Boil 1 cup of dried elderberries in 4 cups of water, Boil down to about ½ liquid. Add one cup of honey while still warm. Strain and press out all of the juice. Refrigerate. Excellent for colds and sore throats. 3. Chamomile Tea: One tablespoon dried chamomile per cup of boiling water. Add Honey to take. Good Calming tea for children. Also good for calming an upset stomach… 4. Nettle Infusion: ½ Cup dried nettle 3 Cups of boiling water Steep for at least and hour. Let cool. Drink every day as an antihistamine to decrease sensitivity. Rhythm and Ritual Dianne Bearinger 10/2011 One of the things that most new parents find unnerving is just how arrhythmic their newborn babies are. Newborns have irregular breathing patterns, heartbeats, and sleep patterns. Skin to skin contact is so important at this stage. Up against her parent’s bare chest a new baby starts to tune her own rhythms to those of her mother or father. This process of “coming into rhythm” is something that continues for the first three years of a child’s life and it helps to form the physical foundation that she will stand on for her whole life. Our bodies function in a rhythmic way. Our heartbeat and breath give us constant reminders of this. We have, as a culture, lost our connections to the natural rhythms that connect us to the earth. The cycles of light and dark, the phases of the moon, and the round of the seasons, have a diminished impact on us with all of our electronic devises. And yet, many people notice that they feel healthier when they, to some extent, reestablish these connections. People, around the globe, flock to the coasts, for example. Some of the refreshment they find there, I believe, is the connection to the beat of the waves and the turn of the tide. It is easy to be in tune with a kind of breathing as the waves come in and then recede; and as the tide swells and then pulls back. In fact, if we observe them, natural rhythms have a breathing quality to them. The mood behind bringing a young child “into rhythm” is much different than “getting them on a schedule”. It is a gentle process that takes into account the need for balance in the day. A good way to begin this process can be to establish regular sleeping and eating times. It can be very empowering to a young child to grasp where they are in their day. Time is an abstract concept for him. It is much easier for him to understand that it is almost morning snack time, or afternoon naptime. Arranging the child’s day in this predictable pattern can avoid many of the power struggles that tend to happen around the age of two or three. Naptime just is. It is always at this time. “It is lunch time, you know what comes after that, naptime.” It can be helpful to organize the day with a balance of “out- breathing” activities, (like outside play), with “in-breathing” activities, (like quiet story times). I like to draw the distinction between rhythm and schedules; rhythm is alive and elastic, schedules are linear and can be unchanging. If we work in a rhythmic pattern, things come in the same order every day but sometimes lunch, for example, takes longer. This can create a sense of spaciousness to the day. Arranging the child’s week in a similar way can also be helpful and empowering to the young child. Tuesday is “playgroup day”; Wednesday is Story time at the Library. These associations with the day speak more directly to the child’s experience and again help them to find their way around, to know where they are and what to expect. One family I know has a big monthly wall calendar with certain pictures for dance classes, or play group day. Birthdays or a special play date can be noted there as well, and the child slowly understands the round of the week and where she finds herself in it. And then, of course, there is the round of the year. In our area we have four distinct seasons. This round can also be experienced in terms of the breath; with the out-breathing being midsummer and the in-breath midwinter. Just like regular sleep and meals times are the basis of a daily routine or rhythm, celebrating the change of the seasons can be the basis of the round of the year, no matter what religious tradition you practice. The holiday or seasonal celebrations can be very simple, sharing a special meal, lighting special candles and beautiful centerpiece on the table. These family traditions grow to be something the child anticipates and remembers. Children thrive on the regular predictable movement in their days, weeks, and years and they also thrive on ritual and magic. One of the gifts of early childhood is that the most ordinary things seem sacred. We can enter into this mood with our children by adding rituals to their daily lives. Simple blessings before meals can change the whole mood of this time together and bring a sense of gratitude. Earth who gave to us this food Sun who made it ripe and good Dearest Earth Dearest Sun We’ll not forget what you have done. Amen Ritualizing bedtime can make all the difference as well. One song that the family always sings together at this time of day can be a great comfort to a child. A simple prayer can be as well. Guardian Angles, who we love, Shine on us from up above In the morning when we wake, Show us the path of love to take. Amen Rhythmic and balanced days, weeks and years, punctuated by family rituals and celebrations create a firm foundation for our children to stand on and grow into. |
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